Are you in love? Ever wonder, what’s love all about? This time I would like to share something I know about love. Love is divided to lust, romantic obsession and attachment. There some who lost of love and some cultures, people never gonna experience love.

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The first stage is lust. It’s very much of the sex drive. One of the main things that men like about women is their waist and hippy shows. Women are attracted to men with broad shoulders and rugged features.

The second stage of love is romantic passion. The same chemicals were involved when the person is in love and highly into it. The scientists are speculating that it ends after about 4 years. And it is because that’s the period for a human baby to become viable (sensible). And two things happen either couple separate or they stay together in the long term relationship.

The third stage is called attachment. And there is a different chemical on the brain that involves in that. That causes one to feel very calm and soothe. That happens couples have settled down with their lives and children.

In India, romantic passion dies. Arrange marriage has been in India for centuries. And they say that first comes marriage then comes love. There have been abuses of that though and there is a certain days when thousands of children were married of which is considered an auspicious day. The practice of child wedding is extremely controversial and they are trying a lot to stop it. One of the social workers who had tried to stop, has her hands cut off. Love somehow became a human right issues. It became something other than love. 13-year-old girl who had been married for 9 years. Her husband was 17. Another young girl at 15 has two children. In India, a woman without a man has no status.

Taiwanese man come to China to obtain a bride. The men interview their potential bride. By the end of the day, there will have selected wife. In three days, they were married. A woman would have married someone whom she had met for 10minutes and to go off with him to an entirely different country. It’s all because the desire for a better life that they will be able to do that. The men went to China for bride due to the aggressiveness and assertiveness of the Taiwanese women now. They are educated, have jobs and opinions.

Japan is in the social crisis. They have the lowest birth rates and the highest age of marriage. Women feel that it is a life of dreary according to Japan tradition. Young women now are in their social revolution that they don’t want that. And one of the phenomenon are the “lolitas”. Women from the teenage years up to the age of 30 or 40s who dress in little bopeep (little doll) outfit. They intend to escape from the adults’ responsibilities.

Weddings, valentines … anyone who has already been in love, know that it is not the reality. There is a minimal possibility to be “Happily Ever After”.

Don’t you think so?